The Role of the Parent & Guardian is to foster the growth of an infant through childhood and adolescence to adulthood.

The Purpose of a parent & Guardian is to provide guidance and support during that process, called ‘growing up’.

Growing up means learning to live in the physical world  independently of other people by being able to make personal choices.

Guardians and parents set boundaries that are the standards of behaviour deemed suitable for the child, and meet their physical and emotional needs, in order for them to be safe, secure, comfortable and motivated in their life.

A Parent is distinct from being just a Guardian when they are emotionally attached to their child.

When the parent needs the child as much as the child needs the parent, a very strong emotional attachment is formed.

A True Guardian, as distinct from a foster parent, is sensitively detached in their role of guardianship.

When sensitive to my children’s needs in a detached way, I allow them to follow their own path and grow and mature to independence naturely under their own power, authority and ability.

“Blood is only thicker than water when it stops flowing”.

The Purpose of Relationship is threefold:

1. To meet the emotional needs of both partners in a relationship.

I have a relationship with anyone who meets my needs emotionally. I develop my personality and my character in order to relate better to other people and be more successful in getting my emotional needs met by them. This may be the case whether it is with a marriage partner, a family relative, a friend, a work colleague, or even a family pet.

This is called a Co-dependent Relationship and is ‘being together in separateness’.

2. To enable me to grow and to develop personally in a spiritual way.

On a spiritual path of development and growth, other people are essential as a mirror image of who and where I am on my path. As it is impossible to see the aspects of my own identity that I have chosen to develop, other people are attracted to me as my opportunity to see in them what I wish to change in my Self.

This is called an Interdependent Relationship and is ‘Being Separate in Togetherness’

3. To allow me to share the attributes and attainments of my true identity with others.

By sharing the highest aspects of who I am with another who has attained those attributes, allows us both to experience and to enjoy the exponetial benefits of our mutual development and growth.

This is called an Interdevelopmental Relationship and is ‘Being Together in Togetherness’.

When I share my life with another, it is a joy.

When I share my life with another, it is an expression of how fulfilled my life is.

Unless I am content with my life, I would not choose to share it with another.

Why would I choose to share my displeasure, my unfulfilment or my discontent with someone else.

When I share my partner’s life with them, I cannot be happy.

Sharing someone else’s life is never fulfilling.

I am never content with someone else’s life, only my own.

My partner’s life may be a joy for them, but it can never be a joy for me, and my lack of joy will deplete their fulfilment and their contentment.

When my partner shares their life with me and I share my life with my partner, we have a sharing relationship together that is expansive.

We are each free to follow our own paths and free to support each other on our own path, and free to accept the opportunities that life presents to us seperately and together.

The Saboteur:

• Is the agressive victim.
• Will sabotage all attempts to form meaningful relationships.
• Is a victim of a relationship because they sabotage any relationship that is constructive.
• Is the villain of their own victimhood.
• Is the creator of their own victimhood.
• Believes that a pre-emptive strike is the only defence against attack.
• Is unable to form a constructive relationship because they are unaware of the purpose of relationships.
• Cannot see who they are being.
• Sees themself as the victim of who someone else is being.
• Believes that the only way to stop being a victim of a relationship is to sabotage or destroy the relationship.

The purpose of a relationship is to see and experience who we are being in relationship to another person.

How we relate to others is a reflection of how they relate to us.

Impotence is being impotent, which is without power.

Omni-potent is Being all-powerful.

When we are impotent, we are without power and we need emotional power.

Our Soul gives us the energy to be emotionally potent.

Female impotence creates a lack of passion and desire to unite with a mate.

Male impotence creates penile misfunction, although the passion and desire of the ego may remain.

An emotionally disconnected man or woman will have no awareness that their impotency is the result of their lack of emotional energy.

When we are driven by our sub-conscious ego to get our emotional needs met, we are not acting with our true potency but seeking to regain our emotional energy through the act of sexual union.

We lose our potency within a sexual relationship, when we are no longer developing and spiritually growing.

We stop growing when we lose our authority to make our own choices. When we lose our authority, we lose our power and become impotent in life and love.

The act of sexual union is an essential aspect of spiritual growth and development. It was never designed as a means of getting our emotional needs met or as a reward for someone meeting our emotional needs.

The mis-use of sexual relationships always leads to our loss of power and impotency.

Disconnected from our True Source of Power, we lose our True Potential and become eventually impotent.