"The Inner Coach"

I cannot be happy with my life In Spite Of what is occurring. Spite is the manifestation of a negative belief about whatever is occurring. Suppressing my spite will disallow my happiness. It may enable me to be less miserable, but it won’t allow my happiness. Being full of spite attracts spiteful people who will [...]

Judgment is the act of deciding what is wrong for me. I never judge something to be right, I just accept it as so. Whatever is wrong, I judge to be bad for me as it is a problem that I am tolerating. Blame is the act of deciding who or what is responsible for my [...]

Caring is the act of protecting someone or something. The need to care for and the need to be protected are the same energy experienced from opposing perspectives. All victims need to be cared for and protected from the source of their victim-hood. Overcoming victim-hood overcomes the need to be protected and the need to care [...]

Being Fiercely Protective is actively and assertively defending whatever I need either physically or emotionally. Unless I protect whatever I need, I will lose the source of my emotional power. The greater my emotional need for energy, the more fiercely I will protect its source. Whether my emotional energy is attached to belongings, people, money, principles [...]

Being Inclusive is including other people in my life. It is how I relate to other people who I like and who are like me. I include people in my life who meet my needs emotionally. I attach myself emotionally to people who I need. I include people to whom I am attached. I exclude people [...]

Being Pleased will never make me happy. I am never happy being pleased, just pleased. Being pleased is better than being displeased but it is not true happiness. Expecting to be pleased is a constant source of displeasure. It is also being greedy. Greedy people expect others to please them. They need other people’s emotional [...]

Pleasing Others is choosing to do something to please someone else. When what I do pleases someone else, I am pleasing them. Pleasing others pleases me. It meets my needs emotionally and it meets another’s emotional need. Pleasing is fundamental to a co-dependent relationship. Co-dependent partners meet each other’s needs and please each other’s greed [...]