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Attachment

Saturday, 5. June 2010 9:25

An Attachment is something that I need emotionally.

I am attached to whatever gives me emotional energy.

We all need emotional energy whether we are aware of it or not. We sub-consciously attach our Self to whatever supplies our emotional energy.

In order to guarantee my supply of emotional energy, I seek to own and possess whatever gives me emotional energy.

Whatever I own or possess in my life, I need because it gives me emotional energy.

When I lose a possession, lose ownership of something, or lose contact with someone who meets my emotional needs, I will grieve for the emotional energy that I am no longer receiving.

The sense of attachment to material things and people is strong enough in some instancies to allow them to kill another rather than incur its loss. Especially in the case of an attachment to a home and a family.

It is their emotional need and attachment that makes people possessive and want to own people and material things.

Being unconditionally free of needing material possessions and being emotionally independent of other people allows us to attain the prime attribute of ‘Detachment’.

Being attached is not the same as Being ‘Connected’ to my True Source of Emotional Power.

Category:Spiritual Development | Comment (0) | Autor: theinnercoach

Being Appreciated & Being Appreciating

Thursday, 18. March 2010 8:24

Being Appreciated is an emotional need.

I need to be appreciated by other people for what I do for them or for what I give to them.

When other people appreciate what I do for them, they meet my need for emotional energy.

When other people do not appreciate what I do for them, it drains my emotional energy and demotivates me.

Being appreciated motivates me to do more things for other people.

Being Appreciating is a Divine Attribute.

When I am appreciating who I am Being, who I am appreciating (my emotional state of being), appreciates and grows.

When I am appreciating what I have in the present moment, what I currently have grows and appreciates in the future.

When I am appreciating of what I am doing, the benefits of what I am doing grow and appreciate for me.

When I am Being Appreciating, I am growing, and when I am growing, I am appreciating who I am growing into, and who I am growing into appreciates and grows.

Being Appreciating of others allows others to appreciate me.

When others appreciate me, I have no need to be appreciated, because I am.

When I know that I am appreciated, I have the power to be appreciating of my Self.

My Soul is always in Appreciation of its Self.

Category:Spiritual Development | Comment (0) | Autor: theinnercoach

Love Is Power

Friday, 12. February 2010 7:28

Love is Emotional Power.

An absence of emotional power creates a need for Love.

When I have enough Love in my life, I am emotionally powerful.

When I depend on other people for my emotional power, I will love them for the love that they give to me.

A dependency on other people for my emotional power will disconnect me from my True Source of Power.

The love that I need from another is not True Love, it is an emotional need.

When another meets my needs emotionally, I feel loved, appreciated, approved of or any other aspect of love that I believe that I am without.

True Love is the Omnipotent Power of my Soul.

True Love is the emotional feeling that my Soul has for my Self.

My True Power is the Feeling that my Soul has for my Self when I connect to my Soul’s authority & choice.

Without my Self, my Soul cannot experience the power of its Love for its Self.

Sharing True Love with another involves the connection of two Souls.

Category:Spiritual Development | Comment (0) | Autor: theinnercoach

The Need to be Loved

Thursday, 11. February 2010 10:14

My Need to be Loved is created by my belief that I am disconnected from my True Power.

When I am disconnetced from my Source of Power, I need to be Loved.

All my emotional needs are an aspect of Love that is missing from my Life.

As an infant, I attached myself to my Parents as my emotional source of power.

I developed a need for approval because my parents’ disapproval disconnected me from their emotional energy.

I developed a need to achieve because my Father & Mother praised me with approval of what ever I achieved in my life.

I developed a need to be appreciated because my Parents appreciated what I did for them.

I developed a need to be needed because if no one needed me where would I get my emotional energy?

As I grew up and became unattached from my parents emotionally, I sub-consciously learned to get my need for approval, my need for appreciation, and my need for achievement met by my friends, my teachers, my employers and anyone else who needed me and met my need to be needed.

As I spiritually grow and learn to connect to my True Source of Power, I know that I no longer need to be Loved because I am Loved, I am appreciated for what I do, I have approval for who I am being, I can never fail, and I am needed, every moment of every day for the rest of my Life, by my Source of Eternal Love – my Soul.

Category:Spiritual Development | Comment (0) | Autor: theinnercoach

Making a Difference

Wednesday, 13. January 2010 8:38

To make a difference in this world, I am required to be different.

I cannot be the same as other people and make a difference in this world.

When I am like other people, I will share the world that they have created.

Needing to be liked and needing to be included will stop me being different to other people.

When I am different, I have distinction. My difference makes me distinct from other people.

Living with distinction allows me to make a difference in this world.

My distinction is my unique, individual and exclusive vision for my Life.

With a distinct vision for my Life, I live my Life with Distinction.

Realising my Vision requires me to have an exclusive connection to the Life Path that is my Destiny.

My Destiny is what makes a difference to my Life and following my Life Path is how I will make a difference in this World.

Category:Spiritual Development | Comment (0) | Autor: theinnercoach

Joy & Pleasure

Tuesday, 1. December 2009 9:56

Pleasure is the positive emotional feeling of getting my emotional needs met.

Pleasant people please me with the pleasure they give to me when they meet one of my emotional needs.

When I meet someone else’s emotional need, I have the pleasure of pleasing them because pleasing others pleases me.

Pleasure has a duality of pain, which is unpleasant and unpleasurable.

Whether an action or experience is painful or pleasurable is a personal perception based on an individuals beliefs.

“One Man’s pain is another Man’s pleasure”.

Joy is the pure emotional feeling of being connected to my own Source of Power.

Joy is the feeling of being connected to my Soul.

Joy is the pure positive emotion of being aligned with my True Self.

It is always a Joy to be the Beingness of my Soul.

I experience Joy through the act of doing what I Truly Value as this allows me to express the true value and worth of who I really am.

Joy is pure emotion that is without  duality.

Joy is the expression of my True Power.

Category:Spiritual Development | Comment (0) | Autor: theinnercoach

Pleasing & Displeasing

Monday, 28. September 2009 9:17

Displeasing is being or doing something that another will not like.

I please other people so that they will either like me or love me.

If I need to be liked, I will please a person so that they like me.

If I need to be loved, I will please a person so that they will love me.

If I need to be appreciated, I will please a person so that they appreciate me.

Whatever emotional need that I need from another person, I will please them so that they meet it.

I fear the displeasure that I will feel, when I do not please a person enough so that they will meet my individual needs emotionally.

When I need approval from another, it is because I fear their disapproval, which will displease me.

When someone approves of who I am being, and appreciates what I am doing, it pleases me.

When I connect to my emotional power through another person, it pleases me.

When someone fails to meet my needs emotionally, it displeases me.

When I connect to my True Source of emotional power, I know that my Soul is Approving & Appreciating of my Self.

When I know and feel my approval and appreciation of my Self, when I know and like my Self, when I know and feel that my Soul meets all my emotional needs, I no longer need to please others and fear their displeasure.

Needing someone to please me is being ”Greedy”.

Category:Spiritual Development | Comment (0) | Autor: theinnercoach

Emotional Needs & True Values

Friday, 28. August 2009 8:46

When I am disconnected from my Source of emotional power, I need to coach people to meet my need to achieve that raises my emotional energy.

When I am connected to my Source of Power, I truly value the opportunity to create awareness that coaching allows me.

When I am disconnected from my Source of emotional power, I need a relationship with a partner to meet my need for approval that raises my emotional energy.

When I am connected to my Source of Power, I truly value the bonded bliss that we share together in moments of intimacy and love.

When I am disconnected from my Source of emotional power, I need to travel and explore and find my space and experience new things to recharge my batteries.

When connected to my Source of Power, I truly value the inner revelations of discovering the unknown that allow me to expand my Self and follow my path.

An emotional need is the power that I need to do what I truly value.

Without my emotional power, what I truly value in life is still waiting to be discovered.

Category:Spiritual Development | Comment (0) | Autor: theinnercoach

Coaching to Attain Goals

Monday, 13. July 2009 0:45

When I am Coaching someone, who is without a vision for their life, to attain goals, it is unproductive.

Without a vision for my life, how do I know what goals I really want to achieve?

Coaching someone, who has a vision for their life, to attain goals, is unnecessary.

With a vision for my life, I no longer need to achieve goals.

Goals are achievable, visions are attainable.

With a vision, I can attain aspects of my vision called attainments that highlight my path or destiny.

Attainments are what make my vision a reality.

To clearly see my vision for this life, I am required to know my True Values in Life.

My True Values are only attainable and liveable once I have consciously met my emotional needs.

With an emotional need to succeed, I will need to achieve and to accomplish my goals.

Without a need to succeed, goals are unnecessary.

Without a need for success, failure is not possible.

My goals are challenges that encounter problems.

My attainments are opportunities that fulfil me.

With my attainments I will fulfil my vision for my life.

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Emotional Need

Tuesday, 30. June 2009 7:33

There is one primary Emotional Need and that is the Need for Power.

I need emotional power when I am disconnected from my Source of Emotional Power.

The Source of my Power is my Soul, who is my Grace, my Omnipotence and my Lord Almighty.

When I am connected, inspired and empowered by the authority of my chosen Life Path, I have no emotional needs.

When I am off-track and aligned with my Self, I will need to get my emotional needs met in order to accomplish the will of my ego’s desires.

My emotional need for power presents itself in either an introvert or an extrovert way.

The Need for Love creates an extrovert personality as my ego seeks its power from other people.

The Need for Space creates an introvert personality as my ego seeks to replenish its power itself.

The Need for Power becomes either a need to be loved or a need to have space and determines whether my personality is introvert or extrovert.

My need to be loved and my need to have space are then subject to different characteristics and change their nature dependent on the beliefs that also determine my character.

As I change my beliefs, I change my character and I change my needs, which changes my personality.

The Source of my True Identity is the Source of my True Power.

Category:Spiritual Development | Comment (0) | Autor: theinnercoach

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