Posts Tagged Emotional Intelligence
Love Is Power
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on February 12, 2010
Love is Emotional Power.
An absence of emotional power creates a need for Love.
When I have enough Love in my life, I am emotionally powerful.
When I depend on other people for my emotional power, I will love them for the love that they give to me.
A dependency on other people for my emotional power will disconnect me from my True Source of Power.
The love that I need from another is not True Love, it is an emotional need.
When another meets my needs emotionally, I feel loved, appreciated, approved of or any other aspect of love that I believe that I am without.
True Love is the Omnipotent Power of my Soul.
True Love is the emotional feeling that my Soul has for my Self.
My True Power is the Feeling that my Soul has for my Self when I connect to my Soul’s authority & choice.
Without my Self, my Soul cannot experience the power of its Love for its Self.
Sharing True Love with another involves the connection of two Souls.
The Need to be Loved
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on February 11, 2010
My Need to be Loved is created by my belief that I am disconnected from my True Power.
When I am disconnetced from my Source of Power, I need to be Loved.
All my emotional needs are an aspect of Love that is missing from my Life.
As an infant, I attached myself to my Parents as my emotional source of power.
I developed a need for approval because my parents’ disapproval disconnected me from their emotional energy.
I developed a need to achieve because my Father & Mother praised me with approval of what ever I achieved in my life.
I developed a need to be appreciated because my Parents appreciated what I did for them.
I developed a need to be needed because if no one needed me where would I get my emotional energy?
As I grew up and became unattached from my parents emotionally, I sub-consciously learned to get my need for approval, my need for appreciation, and my need for achievement met by my friends, my teachers, my employers and anyone else who needed me and met my need to be needed.
As I spiritually grow and learn to connect to my True Source of Power, I know that I no longer need to be Loved because I am Loved, I am appreciated for what I do, I have approval for who I am being, I can never fail, and I am needed, every moment of every day for the rest of my Life, by my Source of Eternal Love – my Soul.
Standards & Attainments
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 30, 2010
A Standard is a level of behaviour that has been achieved and is regularly expressed.
An Attainment is a level of Being that has been attained and can be consciously chosen.
I act or react according to my standards of behaviour. My standards are the level of behaviour that I find acceptable.
Who I am being whilst I am doing what I am doing is determined by my level of attainment.
The emotional state of being that I have attained will determine my power to choose how or what I do and the standard to which I do it.
The higher my level of attainment, the more power I have to consciously choose what I want to occur and how I choose to respond to that which is occurring.
My standards are a ‘have to’. They are the standard to which I believe that I have to aspire.
With the attainment of sufficient power, I have the ability to choose my actions and my responses in each and every moment. I no longer have to conform to any standard.
The Test of Emotional Intelligence
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 22, 2010
The Test of my Emotional Intelligence is the degree to which I can be Happy and Well as a result of my conscious choice to be so.
It is my emotional ignorance that is depriving me of the happiness and well-being that is my true nature.
Happiness is an emotional feeling.
How can a rational person be happy in an emotional state of being disconnected and unemotional?
Well-being is an emotional feeling.
How can I feel well in a society that medicates physical and mental illness without one iota of emotional intelligence?
It is my lack of emotional intelligence that disconnects me from my true emotional nature.
A logical world has become an unemotional world devoid of happiness & well-being and full of sadness & sickness. This society has lost its connection to its true wealth and its true health and happiness.
In an emotionally intelligent world, the only irrational behaviour is to be unemotional and interllectually challenged to the point of having to disconnect from one’s own emotional experiences.
Being unemotional is being emotionally unintelligent.
Containing one’s emotions means not expressing one’s emotions, which is suppressing them and choosing to disconnect from them.
Expressing who I really am requires the emotional intelligence of knowing who I really am.
Knowing who I really am is the true Test of Emotional Intelligence.
Life is an Emotional Experience
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 21, 2010
My Emotional Intelligence requires more than the ability to manage my irrational behaviour.
It requires the ability to understand my emotional experiences rationally and intelligently.
The cause of irrational behaviour is the lack of intelligence.
I react irrationally with what is seen as an emotional reaction.
I am able to consciously respond with positive emotion once I attain the intelligence and understanding to do so.
My irrational behaviour is a symptom of my lack of rational intelligence.
The cause of my irrational behaviour is my lack of emotional intelligence.
Extreme irrational behaviour is diagnosed as mental illness by a rational person who is without emotional intelligence.
In the absence of emotional intelligence, life has become an unemotional experience for rationally intelligent people and life has become an irrational experience for emotionally unintelligent people. (Both the mental patient and the psychiatrist are reflecting to each other their absence of emotional intelligence even though one has a rational perspective and the other an irrational perspective).
In a dualistic world, the more rationally intelligent I become the more emotionally unintelligent I am and the more irrational I appear to be, the more emotionally unintelligent I appear to be.
Life is an Emotional Experience once I become emotionally intelligent enough to allow it to be.
Emotional States of Being
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 19, 2010
Emotional States of Being require definition before I can understand them intelligently.
When I define an emotional state of being, I give it definition, it becomes a definite emotion and I can become consciously-aware of its existence.
It is my conscious-awareness of the definite nature of my emotions that allows me to be emotionally intelligent.
An emotional person is aware of their feelings.
An emotionally intelligent person is able to consciously name their emotional state of being and create it at will.
By intelligently defining an emotion, I am both emotionally aware of the feeling and rationally conscious of its definition.
I define an emotion (emotional state of being) with an adjective, which is a describing word.
An adjective that describes my feeling or my emotional state of being is an emotion.
Without an adjective (word) to describe it, an emotion is just a feeling that I don’t really understand.
Emotional Intelligence
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 18, 2010
Emotional Intelligence is the degree to which I can feel and be aware of my own emotional states of being.
Being Emotional means I am aware of my emotional state of being.
Having Intelligence means I have a rational knowledge and understanding of a situation, occurrence or circumstance that I am currently experiencing.
I am intelligent when I can rationalise what is happening in my reality.
I am emotional when I can feel the awareness of my emotional state of being.
Emotional Intelligence becomes confusing when I define emotional as being irrational.
Emotional Intelligence is not the study and comprehension of negative emotional states of being that cause me to react.
Being emotional is not reacting emotionally, it is being aware of my emotional state of being so that I can respond in a rational way (intelligently).
Reacting in what is considered a negative emotional state of being is called being irrational.
Being irrational is the result of an absence of both rational and emotional intelligence.
Understanding irrational behaviour does require emotional intelligence but it is not the definition of emotional intelligence.
Trying to rationally understand irrational behaviour will never make me emotionally intelligent, just more rationally intelligent.
A rational study of emotional intelligence is by definition promoting rational intelligence not emotional intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence requires that I am being both emotional and rational in the comprehension of what I am experiencing.
Comprehending other peoples’ emotional states of being requires sensitivity and a degree of Sensitive Intelligence.
Charisma
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on December 8, 2009
Charisma is my personal power of Attraction.
My power of attraction is relative to my emotional state of being.
My emotional state of being determines my personal charm.
My personal charm is the aura that I emanate.
The quality of my aura is determined by the intensity of my emotional energy.
The intensity of my emotion is determined by the gender and polarity of my energy.
When the gender of my energy is re-united, I transmit a pure wavelength of attractive energy.
When the polarity of my energy is harmonised, I transmit a pure frequency of magnetic energy.
When my gender is united and my polarity is harmonised, the intensity of my energy is in balance.
Charisma is the influence that I have on other people emotionally and energetically.
Charisma is the beneficial effect that I have on other people spiritually.
Charisma is the gift of grace and favour that I extend to others when I am connected to my Divine Source of Power & Authority.
At One with my Power
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on December 3, 2009
I am ‘At One’ with my True Soure of Power when I am empowered by my Soul.
My Soul empowers my Self when I am in alignment with my Soul’s Path.
My Soul does not empower my ego to do its own bidding.
When my ego is misaligned and not empowered by my Soul, it will need will power to achieve my wants and desires.
I am At One with my Power when the gender of my emotional energy is united and whole.
When I am At One with my Power, my temperament is even and balanced.
When I am disconnected and in need of emotional power, I am at odds with my emotions and my temper is bad.
At one with my Power, my temper is good, my temperament is well, and I am in a good mood.
At one with my Power, I am independently empowered and my emotional needs have all been met.

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