"The Inner Coach"

The Drama of the Poor Me is Humbleness. Humbleness is: Patience without faith Meekness without authority Humility without confidence Temperance without health Fortitude without wealth Prudence without wisdom Pleasing without power Unselfishness without a mission Service without a purpose A journey without a vision Humbleness is related to the 7 religious virtues that ensured subservience to [...]

The Drama of the Intimidator is Arrogance. Arrogance is: Pride without humility Greed without humbleness Wrath without meekness Anger without patience The Vanity of false self-worth The Assertiveness of false self-confidence The Will-power of false self-esteem The Hubris of old-fashioned pride The Avarice of old-fashioned greed The Bigotry of old-fashioned wrath I cannot have too [...]

Criticising, condemning & complaining are the three negative reactions to my being the victim of a drama. It is the action of one or all three negative attributes that expresses my own victimhood. When I am the victim of someone’s lack of power, I will complain. When I am the victim of someone’s lack of [...]

Criticising, condemning & complaining are three ways that the Interrogator competes for emotional energy. By criticising the actions of another, I undermine their ability, which makes me superior to them. By condemning the authority of another, I make them wrong, which makes me right and better than them. By complaining about who someone is being, [...]

The Poor Me is the victim of someone else’s fears and beliefs. By making themselves a victim of someone else’s actions, they seek the emotional energy of sympathy from others. The more the poor me can become the hero of their own victimhood, the more emotional energy they can gain from their drama. The poor [...]

The Intimidator is a victim of their own fear. Their fear is created by their false and limiting beliefs about their life. Their false, negative fears create a state of low emotional energy. The Intimidator seeks to victimise the cause of their low emotional energy. As they do not see their own beliefs as the [...]

The Aloof has very weak boundaries and consistently drains emotional energy to other people. They believe that the only way to avoid the  drain on their energy is to withdraw into the solitude of their own ‘cave’. The over sensitive aloof blames others for their low state of emotional energy and sees the only solution as a tactical [...]

The Interrogator seeks to find the cause of their own problems. The cause of their problems is always their own emotional energy deficit. A low level of emotional energy manifests the problems that appear to be occurring in life. An Interrogator does not see their self as the cause of their own problems. They do [...]

We are all Victims of a Control Drama. We all compete with others for our emotional energy. We are all victims of needing more emotional energy than we have. We are born with neither the awareness nor the emotional intelligence to meet our own emotional needs. We all resort to Control Dramas to replace the [...]