Archive for January, 2010
Gentlemen & Gentlewomen
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 31, 2010
Gentlemen and Gentlewomen are both ‘Gentle’ folk.
Being Gentle requires the attainment of ‘Gentleness’.
Gentleness has great personal emotional power.
The attainment of great power requires my alignment with my highest authority.
My highest authority is my Soul.
When my authority is aligned with my Soul, I connect with great power, the power of my Soul, which is Love.
My Soul allows me unconditional authority to choose for my Self, and the power to assert that choice.
My Soul has no authority over others and therefore cannot allow me to have power over others.
I have no authority over others by right. Taking authority for other people’s choices may motivate me but it will never empower me.
When my authority requires force, it means that it is without force and is not empowered by Love.
Without Gentleness, the force that I give to my authority comes from my ego’s will power and will often be seen as hostile and aggressive by others.
Aggressive force requires strength of will, not Gentleness.
Gentle folk are connected to their true power and authority and therefore never need to seek power or authority over other people.
Standards & Attainments
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 30, 2010
A Standard is a level of behaviour that has been achieved and is regularly expressed.
An Attainment is a level of Being that has been attained and can be consciously chosen.
I act or react according to my standards of behaviour. My standards are the level of behaviour that I find acceptable.
Who I am being whilst I am doing what I am doing is determined by my level of attainment.
The emotional state of being that I have attained will determine my power to choose how or what I do and the standard to which I do it.
The higher my level of attainment, the more power I have to consciously choose what I want to occur and how I choose to respond to that which is occurring.
My standards are a ‘have to’. They are the standard to which I believe that I have to aspire.
With the attainment of sufficient power, I have the ability to choose my actions and my responses in each and every moment. I no longer have to conform to any standard.
Courtesy, Etiquette & Manners
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 29, 2010
The standards of behaviour of the Upper classes is called Courtesy.
The Aristocracy behave as they wish and they see fit. They conform or humble themselves only to their Sovereign, which they see as being courteous or acting as they would in a Royal Court.
The standards of behaviour of the Middle Classes is called Etiquette.
Etiquette is the standard of behaviour that people who wish to better themselves choose to aspire to.
Etiquette is how the middle classes believe that the upper clases behave and thus aspire to emulate them.
The standards of behaviour of the Lower Classes is called Manners.
Manners are the manner in which the majority of working class people approve of other working class people behaving.
Lower Class people see working class people as having impeccable manners. Upper class people see the manner of working class people as disgusting.
Standards of Behaviour are the standards of behaviour that we find tolerable and wish others to adopt, irrespective of whether we call them manners, etiquette or courtesy.
All people who tolerate others are standardised by their class.
When I become ‘Accepting’ of all others, I allow all others to follow their own standards of behaviour, knowing that it is their behaviour and their standard and not mine.
With unconditional ‘Acceptance’ of all others, boundaries are no longer necessary.
Common Courtesy
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 28, 2010
Common Courtesy is an oxymoron.
Courtesy is the standard of behaviour displayed by Courtiers at a Royal Court. It is elitist and never common.
Courtesy is the etiquette and the manner of the Aristocratic upper classes not the common people.
Courtesy is what common people often aspire to because it is not common to most people.
Common courtesy is often seen as the behaviour required of a Gentleman.
Acting like a Gentleman requires me to be ‘Gentle’ rather than Courteous.
Attaining ‘Gentleness’ is the state of being ‘Powerful yet Accepting’ and being ‘Authoritative yet Allowing’.
Being Courteous is behaving in a manner fit for a royal audience as instructed by a royal courtier.
Being Courteous is being humble and deferring to the Sovereign and the Crown. It is obeying the rules and traditions of that Dominion.
Being Common is behaving in a manner and to a standard of the majority of the populus who are the Common People.
Being Common in the presence of Royalty is seen as arrogant and rude.
In the presence of Royalty I can choose Courtesy, Common-ness or Gentleness.
Guiding & Supporting
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 27, 2010
Guiding and Supporting are the two primary skills of a Coach.
Guiding is also a leadership skill of a Director.
When I guide someone by leading them, I am guiding them in my chosen direction.
When I guide, lead and direct someone in my direction, they become a follower or a worker. They follow my lead, my guidance and my direction.
When I lead someone by guiding their direction they will need my motivational support because they are acting under my will power.
When I support another as a Life Coach, I connect them to their own Source of Power and they become empowered with Life-force Energy.
With sufficient power, I support others to make new choices.
Once another has the power to make new choices for themself, I can guide them to realise, make real, those choices and bring them into their reality.
A Director guides another to follow his/her authority and supports them to achieve his/her aims and objectives. Followers, employees and workers require direction and motivation.
A Life Coach supports another to connect to their own emotional power, guides them to follow their own authority and enables them to lead their own Life. With Guidance & Support they become inspired and empowered.
God’s Work
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 26, 2010
We are all doing God’s Work.
Some do it consciously, some do it sub-consciously, others do it with conscious-awareness.
Some do it with pride, some do it with humility, others do it with acceptance.
Some work hard at it, some are slothful, others do it effortlessly.
Some do it with kindness, some do it with envy, others choose it with gratitude.
Some do it with anger, some do it with patience, others do it with fulfilment.
Some like to control it, some are controlled by it, others allow it to unfold naturally.
God’s Work is the Divine Plan and everything is always in alignment with the Divine Plan.
God’s plan is for each individual Soul to have Choice. It is through the choice of each individual Soul that God will come to know who God Is.
The All That Is will Realise the extent of All That Is.
With each Soul’s individual choice is created a unique, exclusive and individual Reality that is the expression of that Soul’s creative ability.
God’s Reality is the sum total of the creative experiences of All Souls.
Whether aware or not, there is no one and no thing that is not in service to God and doing God’s work in order to allow God to experience the Realisation of God according to the Divine Plan.
We are all doing God’s Work whether we realise it or not.
Pure Love
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 25, 2010
Pure Love is the Power of my Soul to Be. It is Pure Beingness.
The Omnipotent Feeling of Pure Love is my Soul.
It is only in the separation from my Soul that I am able, my Self, to feel the Pure Love of my Soul.
My Soul is a Being of Pure Love that shows my Self the potential of my own Beingness.
It is only in the disconnection from my power that I am able to feel my power and my lack of power.
As I appreciate my Soul’s Power it appreciates within my Self. It expands and grows.
My Soul is the prime cause of Pure Love because my Soul is connected to the Prime Cause of Everything.
My Soul is beyond the duality of cause and effect. It therefore cannot feel the effect of the Pure Love that it is and that it causes.
My Soul is the Subject of Pure Love and I am the object of that Love.
My Self feels the effects of the Love that is caused by the Power of my Soul’s Pure Feeling.
My Self is the object of my Soul’s subjective Love.
The effects of my Soul’s Love for my Self is felt as emotion or as an emotional state of Being.
All emotions are an individual aspect of Pure Love that is felt by each Individual and is affected by each Individual’s thinking and beliefs.
The Purity of my emotional feelings is indicative of my ability to be in alignment with my Soul.
It is only through my Self that my Soul can experience the potential of the Pure Love that it Is.
It is only in the ‘isn’t’ that the ‘Is’ can experience its Self.
The Test of Emotional Intelligence
Posted by theinnercoach in Spiritual Development on January 22, 2010
The Test of my Emotional Intelligence is the degree to which I can be Happy and Well as a result of my conscious choice to be so.
It is my emotional ignorance that is depriving me of the happiness and well-being that is my true nature.
Happiness is an emotional feeling.
How can a rational person be happy in an emotional state of being disconnected and unemotional?
Well-being is an emotional feeling.
How can I feel well in a society that medicates physical and mental illness without one iota of emotional intelligence?
It is my lack of emotional intelligence that disconnects me from my true emotional nature.
A logical world has become an unemotional world devoid of happiness & well-being and full of sadness & sickness. This society has lost its connection to its true wealth and its true health and happiness.
In an emotionally intelligent world, the only irrational behaviour is to be unemotional and interllectually challenged to the point of having to disconnect from one’s own emotional experiences.
Being unemotional is being emotionally unintelligent.
Containing one’s emotions means not expressing one’s emotions, which is suppressing them and choosing to disconnect from them.
Expressing who I really am requires the emotional intelligence of knowing who I really am.
Knowing who I really am is the true Test of Emotional Intelligence.
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